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Recommended Reading for Men

A 12 month reading program for personal growth as a … Man of God, Husband, Father

Man of God

1st Month

Read: Wild At Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul (2001 by John Eldridge)

Scripture: Meditate on Isaiah 40–66, noting especially references to God’s relationship with “the servant.”

This one will stretch your concept of what it means to love God and follow God as a man. (Hint: It’s way beyond just “being a nice guy.")

2nd Month

Read: Men’s Secret Wars (1999 by Patrick Means)

Scripture: Meditate on Philippians 2–3, and James 1–4.

How do these passages apply to your life at present? Write a vision/action plan based on your meditations. An excellent read that takes on the Big Ones: lust, power, money, plus a number of others that will surprise you. It doesn’t just describe the secret wars, has solid plans for winning them!

3rd Month

Read: Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives (1992 by Richard A. Swenson)

Scripture: Meditate on Mark 6:30–46. How does your life parallel, or differ from, the “work” described herein? Do a character study of two of Scripture’s “busy people,” Moses (see, for example, Exodus 2–19; Numbers 11–17; Deuteronomy 8) and Martha (Luke 10:38). What were the effects of their busyness? How did the Lord respond?

Written by a physician who has plenty to do, this book offers sound, practical steps for creating personal space so that life is not just a frenzy of activity with no reflection upon God, others, ourselves.

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4th Month

Read: Discovering the Mind of A Woman (1995 by Ken Nair)

Scripture: Meditate on Galatians 5 and Ephesians 5 for the whole month. Do a “searching and fearless moral inventory” of your treatment of your wife, and of “who you are when nobody is looking.” What needs to change?

Being a husband your wife loves to love means more than clipping your nose hairs and not scratching certain places when she can see! This penetrating book guides you through the maze of things on your wife’s mind, and what you can lovingly and decisively do about them.

5th Month

Read: Men Are Like Waffles: Women Are Like Spaghetti (2001 by Bill and Pam Farrel)

Scripture: Meditate on Romans 6–9 and Colossians 2:8–15. What steps can you take to renew both your mind (how you think) and your heart (what you feel down deep)?

You wondered why she can ever stick to one topic in an argument? You wondered how she can be looking right at you with your shirt off, muscles rippling, and not want to make love? The mysteries of the sexes (or at least how and why they think differently) are revealed! Give this one to your wife when you’re done.

6th Month

Read: Building Your Mate’s Self-Esteem (1995 by Dennis and Barbara Rainey)

Scripture: Do a word/phrase study in Proverbs on “the wise.” What do they say and do? How does that apply to your actions/words with your wife?

Yes, how she feels about herself can affect the marriage, and you can impact how she feels about herself. This excellent book is practical and action-oriented, with an “esteem builder project” after each chapter.

7th Month

Read: The Five Love-Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (1995 by Gary Chapman)

Scripture: Do a word study, using a Concordance and a Bible Handbook, on “the heart” in Scripture. What does the Bible say about yours and hers?

Makes loving less confusing. Practical and essential. Read and pass it on!

8th Month

Read: Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (2003 by Kevin Leman)

Scripture: Read the Song of Solomon. Consider reading it aloud to each other.

Gentlemen, this is not a text on music appreciation! It is a frank (sometimes startlingly so) consideration of every aspect of a healthy sex life. Share it with the one you love.

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9th Month

Read: Dad’s Everything Book for Daughters (2002 by John T. Trent, Ph.D.)

Scripture: Meditate on Proverbs 31:10–31, one verse per day. Pray these verses into your daughter’s life based on your knowledge of her.

Touching, well-written. Will give dads the tools for raising girls to be Godly women.

10th Month

Read: Bringing Up Boys: Practical Advice and Encouragement for Those Shaping the Next Generation of Men (2001 by James Dobson)

Scripture: Meditate on I Chronicles 22:6–13 and I Chronicles 28:9, 10, 20. Write a blessing for your son (or grandson) based upon David’s counsel to Solomon.

Dr. Dobson has been anointed again on a subject. If you have a boy, or you know someone who does, this book should be in a premier place on the shelf.

11th Month

Read: Seven Words to Change Your Family . . . While There’s Still Time (2002 by James MacDonald)

Scripture: Do the “Project to go deeper” after each chapter. These will take you actively into the Scriptures for study and application.

Here is an action-packed, rubber-meets-the-road strategy for speaking (and living-out) healing, building, transforming power in your family.

12th Month

Read: Praying God’s Will for Your . . . (Wife, Son, Daughter) (2002 by Lee Roberts)

Scripture: Before beginning to use this series in prayer, meditate on the following Psalms concerning prayer: Ps 9:10,12; Ps 10:17; Ps 32:6; Ps 34:15,17; Ps 37:4,5; Ps 38:15; Ps 56:9.

For men who know the power of prayer, and men who want to know it. This series provides a blueprint for spot-on, Scripture-based prayer for each member of your family.


Book and Scripture choices made by Steven A. Hamon, Ph.D.

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